This Unfair World

Does life too often seem unjust and unfair?…

 “Why is everything unfair and unjust in this world?…”

It’s a question a lot of people have on their minds. Frankly, it’s a very big question too. Philosophers and mystics have pondered this for as long as humans have been on this earth. Hence, it’s impossible to give a definitive answer. However, here are my personal thoughts on the matter.

We have to see this from two points of view simultaneously; two viewpoints which are ultimately paradoxical to each other. The first is our standard personality consciousness. From this point of view, many things in life do seem unfair. Not only do they seem unfair, they actually are unfair. I don’t need to give examples. You know what we are talking about. However, that is just from the personality consciousness viewpoint.

In order to believe that life is unfair, you have to completely believe in the “reality” of the personality consciousness experiencing that life, and its interpretation of what is being presented to it by the senses. Now, the other viewpoint is what we might all the “enlightenment perspective”.

This is essentially the dispassionate, detached observer – pure consciousness – that can watch the unfolding of events without judgment or blame. It does not have mental investment in world events. It just sees them come and go, like the water flowing by in a river.

To it, the meanings and motives we attribute to events are essentially illusory. Not only that, it perceives the human body and the human consciousness to be equally illusory. from that higher consciousness perspective, there is no “unfairness” and “injustice”. Things just are. That’s all.

Even if you suffer physically or mentally, this higher consciousness perspective is untroubled because it realizes that the suffering and death of the physical body is not ultimate in any sense, but just a passing phase in existence.

Now, all of this is admittedly a pretty tough perspective for most of us to achieve on an ongoing basis We may be momentarily capable of this, but in the unenlightened state, it is impossible to sustain for any appreciable length of time. And the vast majority of us are unenlightened, no matter how much modern Western spiritual books and courses might like to tell you differently.

Now, this higher consciousness we are talking about is largely an Eastern mystical perspective. It cannot generally be found in the Western tradition, as represented by religions such as Christianity, Judaism and Islam. All of these do assume the reality of the individual person as a given. There is no illusion here. A person is real, and that person’s consciousness is real. Likewise, if there is a higher perspective that makes all things right, it is the personal God’s perspective alone. Moreover, this perspective is “right” because God knows his own private purposes and plans that are working themselves out in his creation.

Hence, from the human point of view, according to this system, things are unfair. BUT… all will be made right when God’s purposes are finally revealed. Until then, we must have faith and trust that all will eventually work together for good for those that trust in God. There are many problems with this approach, not least of which is the perfectly valid question as to why God created such a perverse situation in the first place. Christianity, at least, has to give a strange and convoluted answer in order to devolve direct responsibility for the situation from God himself. This, however, is never really done with any great degree of satisfaction, and still leaves many questions unanswered.

Pure enlightened consciousness sees no duality.

The Eastern perspective on higher consciousness poses fewer problems, and is ultimately more satisfactory. It does not need to resort to notions of Sin, Judgment, Devil or anything else like this in order to give a satisfactory explanation of what we perceive. Instead, the cosmic Law of Cause & Effect – called Karma – ultimately dictates, in a totally dispassionate, unbiased and irrefutable manner, why beings experience what they do, either for good or ill.

However, we have to be careful not to “talk theory” all the time about this higher perspective, whilst still remaining firmly rooted in our own normal consciousness. You see this a lot in New Age online forums. It’s easy to talk enlightenment, i.e. talk of things you have never personally experienced, but it’s quite something else to live it. Be gentle with yourself, and gradually work towards the higher consciousness perspective. It may not be something that you even achieve in this lifetime.

However, you can still remind yourself of it constantly whenever you look at the world and all of its sufferings, and despair of it all. The world may seem and unfair, and actually BE unfair to the personality consciousness. However, every time it seems so, remember that you are associating with a view of reality that is ultimately confined by your own senses and your own necessarily limited understanding.

There is a higher perspective possible. So, as much as possible, mentally associate with it. One day, it will become your reality.

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All Is Karma!

Karma is explored in this video from the point of view of it being a universal law of Nature, namely the Law of Cause & Effect. The Law of Karma’s relationship to the Law of Attraction ( a favorite new age self help topic) is also briefly discussed.

Far from being fatalistic in nature, the law of karma demonstrates that we are ultimately responsible for everything that manifests in our life from birth to death. This responsibility for our lives incorporates the concept of reincarnation; namely that we have lived many past lives (often accessible via past life regression).

Karma is explained as being created by our every thought, word or action. Moreover, it is karma that colors even the way we think, the reactions we have, our emotions, and what we attract into our lives. It is pointed out that our karmic debt stems from countless lives, and only some of it ripens in this life. Likewise, we are creating karma in each and every moment which, along with the karmic potential created in countless previous lives, will manifest in this life as well as all future lives we shall experience.

Every effect has a corresponding cause and this is what the law of karma states, both at the personal level as well as the international political level, e.g. events like 9/11. Although politicians like to pretend that there are effects without causes (e.g. terrorism), in fact there are NO effects without causes. The latter exist but may be hidden from our eyes, even as our own karmic burden, created in past lives, is currently invisible to us. Nevertheless, karma manifests in our lives for good or ill.

At the end of the video, some recommendations are given. We should take responsibility for our lives just as they are, realizing that we basically created them that way through karma. We should take responsibility for every thought, word and deed. Moreover, we should seek out karma cleansing methods to start to rid ourselves of the almost infinite karma that we have accumulated over infinite previous lives.

Using The Body for Emotional Intelligence & Intuition

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The body is a great source of emotional intelligence and intuitive knowledge that most of us simply fail to tap into. The reason is that in this modern society of ours, many of us live mostly in our heads and are hence out of touch with parts of our very being.

Ancient societies, modern tribal cultures, as well as intuitives and mystics of all ages have long understood the importance of living lives in a fully integrated way, and not merely in parts. When we do this, we are open to all sorts of intuitive, almost psychic, information that is there for our benefit, if only we could take a moment and actually notice its presence.

So what does it mean to be more in touch with the intuitive guidance within the body? It means getting information, sensations, emotions, feelings that give you clear guidance as to what you should do in a certain situation, or the direction you should take when you are posing a specific question.

The conscious mind is only a tiny portion of the intelligence that is available to us. The full power of the subconscious mind is so vast that the conscious mind would look like a tiny blip by comparison. Moreover, the key point is that much of that higher consiousness intelligence is transmitted in non-linear symbolic ways, such as dreams, sensations and intuitions (both physical and mental).

We start to gain access to this inner body guidance and emotional intelligence when we simply begin to develop awareness; to go within and pay attention to what our inner being is trying to tell us through the medium of the physical body. If you have never paid heed to your body and its messages to you, but simply regard it as a vehicle to get you around in life, then you are not only  closed to ANY form of guidance from this direction whatsoever, but you are also at grave risk of ignoring critical messages that the body is trying to communicate to you about your physical health. Illness is most often a manifestation of inattention to the needs of your physical, mental and spiritual being. If you cannot even receive THESE critical messages, then you are definitely closed to the infinitely more subtle refined messages that are available all the time.

To reawaken guidance through the physical body, pay more attention to it. This can definitely be done in a conscious deliberate way through meditation upon the body in a quiet place. It can also be done throughout the day as you monitor how your body is responding, the feelings you are getting on an ongoing basis, as you go from one situation to another. In other words, you practice Mindfulness, as the Buddhists call it, but specifically focused upon your body, its sensations and emotions.

Do you feel an unsettling sensation in your stomach in certain situations that later turn out for the worst for you? Do you literally feel a pain in the neck (!) around certain people who are negative and unhelpful? When you have an illness of some sort, what were you doing and experiencing in the days or even hours prior that might have actually been a direct cause?

As you pay attention to your body, its sensations, and its relationship with your emotions, you will start to pick up on certain specific indicators that are laden with meaning for you. These indicators will be personal for you and will be different for another person. Record them. Pay heed to them when they repeat themselves. Seek to become ever more attentive and ever more sensitive to the inner promptings. As you do so, you are giving your body and higher consciousness permission to reveal ever more to you via this medium that you have opened up. Gradually, you open yourself up to the emotional intelligence that the body can offer you.

You can even use your body for guidance through developing some system for “Yes” and “No” answers. Some people use a simple pendulum of some sort, made by tying an object like a crystal or a stone to a piece of string. This works fine. However, you can also establish a certain feeling sensation, one positive and wholesome and the other negative and unsettling to do precisely the same thing. You then relax yourself, get calm and quiet, ask your question, and see what response you receive.

However, the body can provide much more guidance throughout your life, far beyond mere “Yes” and “No” situations. You can be guided to the right place for you, the right partner, good and bad business transactions and more. In fact, it is said that most top business men and women and unknowing intuitives. After all, what is “gut feeling” but bodily intuition?…

The point of all this is that you have a priceless system of inner guidance within you right NOW. You are doing yourself a massive disservice to ignore it since it is not only a part of you, it is INTENDED to be used in the way that we have been discussing. To fail to do so is to live with only part of your brain switched on.

However, to live in tune with your body and its guidance is to live more truly, more holistically and to live far better because you are receiving correct emotional intelligence guidance, personal to you from the source of All; direct connection to universal intelligence

Copyright Asoka Selvarajah 2011. All Rights Reserved.

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Carrying Meditation Throughout The Day

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In Buddhist teachings, there is a critically important concept called Mindfulness. Put simply, it means that we carry a meditative state of awareness throughout our day, not simply when we are sitting (or walking) in meditation.

Thus, the whole of our day and consequently our lives becomes a meditative act. It is not simply to be confined to a holy room and then we can go back to “normality” once we are done with it, rather like holiness for the Christian is not supposed to just be engaged in on Sunday morning during the Church service!

The whole point of Enlightenment is that it is about Awakening – from the deep slumber that we know as everyday consciousness. That is why the Buddha referred to himself as Tathagata, i.e. “he who is awake”.

Consequently, as we learn to pay attention in the moment to each and every act of ours, no matter how small or insignificant, we too slowly but surely train ourselves in the process of Awakening, simply by actually being awake in the moment. This is what Mindfulness enables us to do.

It is a small everyday miracle and one that is easy to practice, but also all to easy to forget to do in the midst of the bustle of our lives and the competing web of mental entanglements that compete for out attention. However, the benefits of giving ourselves to this practice are deep and truly go beyond the power of words to express. Mindfulness lies at the very heart of spirituality because it enables us to really LIVE in the moment, the be fully present right HERE, and to awaken to what IS.

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The Sleeper Awakens Within The Dream

When we awaken from dreams, we realize that they were not real,
but entirely of our own creation. In a dream, you are the
participant as well as the creator of all the other characters
and the settings. In like manner, everyday reality can also be
viewed from this dream perspective; a dream from which each of us
will one day awaken to realize that this too was an illusion of
earthly consciousness.

Yet, many things in everyday existence do have apparent reality.
There are many things we can all independently agree upon. So, if
this is the case, who is doing the dreaming?

The answer may be that we all are – collectively. If we are the
Universe, as well as essentially being spiritually One –
indivisibly part of the Source/God/Creator of all – then we can
conclude that we co-create the joint dream-reality we all
participate in and perceive around us.

It is our spiritual life task to gradually awaken within the
dream. At this point, we will be fully spiritually aware, seeing
things as they really are and not with distorted perceptions.
Then, if we participate in this world of forms and shadows, it
will be through conscious choice; a full awareness that make our
best present efforts resemble deepest slumber.

But what is the purpose of this complex interwoven dance we call
life? Why did we manifest in this manner? The stories of esoteric
spiritual teachings can help here. For example, the Garden of
Eden story teaches that through tasting the apple of the
knowledge of Good and Evil, we lost sight of the Divine
Consciousness, and were sent into exile from true reality into
this world of dreams.

What is the symbolic significance of the apple of the knowledge
of Good and Evil? It represents the choice to live through
misperception, and to view life from the standpoint of Duality
and Division; Good and Evil, Right and Wrong, Life and Death,
etc. Instead of participating in Unity consciousness, we choose
Duality and are thus exiled from the divine spiritual perspective
into this confusing world of ever moving shadows. We live in the
world of Effects, without ever seeing the world of Causes.

Division entered and this was the Fall. We divided off from the
divine part of ourselves and have ceased to even know it.
Instead, we live in the world of shadows, obsessed with duality,
and seeing no further than our senses permit. The way back is
guarded by an angel with a flaming sword, because the attainment
of eternal life is impossible as long as we remain mired in
temporal earthly things. Nothing mired in an earthly
consciousness can have any share in eternity.

At yet another level, the reality we see around us is the direct
result of our individual karma, the group karma of our race and
nation, as well as the collective karma of humanity. Life is a
huge learning arena, set into play by ourselves for ourselves in
order to stimulate our own awakening. However long it takes for
this to occur is precisely how long it WILL take for each and
every one of us.

Does this mean that the universe does not exist and is totally a
creation of our minds? From an earthly perspective, it clearly
does exist and possesses certain objective truths that we can
agree upon that can be measured. Yet, even at the earthly level,
the universe can be rightly called illusory in the sense that all
is not as it appears. It may exist but it is certainly not the
way we think it is. For example, the everyday objects we judge as
solid are mostly empty space. Our senses do perceive and make
sense of what is “out there” beyond our own bodies, but do not
define it. A map is NOT the territory. A cat, a fly, a bird and a
human may look upon the same scene and sense entirely different
realities. Which is right? In truth, all are nothing more than
interpretations of the unknowable shifting realm “out there”.

So, from an earthly perspective, the world does have many
elements of objective reality, whilst also simultaneously having
many illusory sides to it. Ultimately, we may find it is composed
of nothing at all except pure Thought and Mind. The universe is
increasingly giving this impression at present, as our scientific
techniques become ever more refined, and our instruments probe
ever deeper in search of the essence of truth.

Spiritually, it definitely does appear that we participate and
co-create in what we see around us. It is primarily our
duality-oriented vision that causes us to see only in terms of
right/wrong, good/evil, civilized/ignorant, life/death. From the
undivided perspective of pure divine consciousness, all is as it
should be. Nothing ever really dies, but merely changes state.
Indeed, death is a necessary part of life itself. Life itself
would be impossible without death. Seeing them as opposites or
antagonists is the classic example of dualistic thinking.

Your purpose then should be to work within the world system, and
the lessons it presents, in order to liberate your thinking and
achieve the consciousness that sees all things as they really
are. Deep pondering can assist this. Meditation will also break
down the barriers. A willingness to perceive people and reality
as they really are, without any judgments or dualistic notions,
will definitely speed up your awakening.

In addition, refusal to participate in unhelpful attitudes or
behavior will not only help you, but will subtly alter the fabric
of the world we are all co-creating. If you see war outside of
yourself, but do not see it in your very heart, you are truly
blind to causes. If you see it within and eradicate it, then you
make it easier to eradicate without. World change starts with
personal change, and a correct perspective on “What Is”;
willingness to change what you can and wisdom to let be what is
beyond your control. What is within you is definitely within your
power to control and master.

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The Law Of Vibration

Science and Metaphysics agree. The essence of all things is
vibration. Science reveals that everything in the manifest
universe is ultimately composed of packets of energy; quantized
units vibrating at specific frequencies. Esoteric wisdom reveals
that in the beginning, all things were created through sound
(i.e. vibration); whether it be the “OM” of Eastern mysticism or
the “Word”/Logos of Western spirituality.

Our thoughts, feelings and actions also have their own particular
rates of vibration. These vibrations will set up resonance with
whatever possesses identical frequency. In other words, your
thoughts are inseparably connected to the rest of the universe.

This is why it is so essential to be a close observer of
yourself. As you think, feel and act, so you create the primary
vibration of your being. This fundamental vibration then creates
resonance with identical vibration frequencies in the universe.
The result is an attraction of circumstances, people, challenges
and opportunities in exact vibrational resonance with your own
dominant vibration frequency.

This principle lies at the heart of visualization techniques,
affirmations and the whole personal development movement. When
you visualize and repeat affirmations, you are helping to tune
your very being to a specific vibrational frequency on the inner
planes. Once that task is achieved, your mind comes into
vibrational resonance with the object of your desires. Being now
of the same frequency, this object (or goal) is inevitably
attracted into your life.

However, for such methods to work, it does imply that you have
changed your core vibration. This is very often the problem AND
explanation as to why such techniques seem to fail for so many
people. Over the course of many years, your inner conditioning is
created from the habitual thoughts, feelings and actions
that you engage in. This forms your self-image and creates the
level of self-esteem you feel. It shapes the way you
conceptualize the world you live in, as well as the way you
respond to it. It is how you interpret your life experiences.

If a person simply mouths affirmations or writes goals out,
without having touched the deep bedrock of their long-term
conditioning, such activities will not have much effect. This is
because the dominant vibration has not changed. You cannot go
against what your self-image, and your predominant conditioning,
say you are.

Thought is where it all begins. As your conscious mind dwells
habitually on thoughts of a certain quality, these become firmly
embedded within the subconscious mind. They become the dominant
vibration. This dominant vibration sets up a resonance with other
similar vibrations and draws them into your life. This is easier
to understand if you consider that from the metaphysical view,
the whole universe IS MIND.

Hence, to draw what you wish into your life, you should begin
with the mind, and make it your primary focus. Most people do
things the other way around, and come up with practical
techniques to generate their desires, and then go out and try
them. However, when these methods are not in tune with your
dominant vibration, then you will have great difficulty making
the desired results come to pass. You will also feel most
uncomfortable if they do. You have trained your mind in a certain
way, you have set the thermostat at a certain level, and now you
are trying to exceed the limits you have set upon yourself by
sheer force.

The trap most people fall into is that they condition their
future with expectations from their past. It’s like driving with
your eyes fixed on the rear view mirror the whole time. You
cannot see where you are going because you are too busy looking
back on past history. Is it any wonder that, for most people, the
future DOES closely resemble the past?!

The problem is that, by focusing continually on what you have
become as a result of past conditioning, you guarantee that you
draw this same dominant vibration into the future. This is also
why your desired future can seem so far away from you. It is
vibrating at an alien frequency and hence, in a real sense, it IS
very far away.

Instead, you have to first change the dominant vibration within.
Once your dominant vibration is in harmony with what you seek,
the latter must literally be “attracted” to you without excessive
striving! It will seem easy in comparison to what came before. In
a very real sense, you have to become what you seek on the inside
before you can ever have it in physical reality.

There are several ways to gradually change the dominant vibration
of your inner being, and begin to resonantly attract what you
seek. One important thing to do is to have a clear vision of your
life as you want it to be; completely independent of the
circumstances of your present or past. Lack of absolute clarity
about their desired future could well be the number one reason
why people fail in life.

You are creating something new from the universal intelligence,
and drawing it into your reality. You do NOT have to base this
upon the past, your perceived weaknesses, or anything else that
derives from your limited self-image.

A good way to gain clarity is to write down in detail the
attainment of what you seek. What would it look like? How would
you feel if you achieved it? What difference would it make to
your life? It may take you days, or even weeks, to create this
vision, but it is time well spent.

By creating a vision of your desired state and putting energy
into it regularly, you use mind power to shape the very stuff of
creation. You create this imagined “reality” in your mind to the
point where your subconscious actually believes it to be physical
reality and goes about making it so. It will attract the
circumstances, the people, and the opportunities you need to
bring about the vision you have created.

If you are doubtful about this, consider for a moment that you
are doing this anyway. The only difference is that you may be
unaware you are doing it. If so, your overall vibration is
incoherent, and hence your results fluctuate wildly. By becoming
conscious, you take conscious control of the creative process and
can learn to manifest at will.

Another way to change your vibration rate is to act “as if”. If
you had already attained what you seek, how would you think and
act? Well, start thinking and acting that way right now. Again,
this helps to impress the dominant vibration you choose upon your
subconscious mind. Again, you have been doing this all your life
anyway. Simply take conscious deliberate control of the process
from now on. For instance, Cary Grant is known to have said:

“I acted like Cary Grant for so long, I became him.”

Taking time to meditate regularly on the truth that all is
vibration, seeing this reality in all is myriad guises, will also
help reinforce it upon your mind – both conscious and
subconscious. You will begin to believe it, and what you believe
is what you act upon.

The reason most people achieve very little in comparison to what
they are capable of is because they have no vision for the future
whatsoever. Focused, single-minded concentration upon a vision
you seek to create is what will actually cause it to happen. You
have to read your description every day (preferably twice or
more), and then vividly imagine it. Begin to live that reality
now in your mind’s eye, and you make its future manifestation all
the more rapid. Do not even worry about how it will happen. Just
do your part and let the universe, through the law of vibration,
do the rest.

Copyright Asoka Selvarajah 2005. All Rights Reserved.


Do You Think Or Are You Being Thought?

So much of what we do is governed by the opinions of others, or out of concern for what others might think. However, there is something much more pervasive going on. There is a process operating in the lives of all human beings called “social proofing” which basically means that we derive most of our social values, morals, imperatives and taboos from those around us. In a more universal sense, this is known as Entrainment.

Entrainment occurs in a wide range of physical and biological systems. For example, if you place a number of pendulum clocks in the same room and set their pendulums moving completely out of synchrony, after a reasonable period of time, you can return to find all the pendulums moving in perfect synchrony to each other.

It is well known that large groups of women who live in closed communities, e.g. nuns or female convicts, will tend to have precisely the same menstrual cycle. If you have ever watched those wildlife films on TV, you may remember seeing an entire shoal of fish, consisting of thousands of individuals, moving and turning as a single entity. The same happens with certain species of birds in flight. Yet, there is no known way that the individuals in such groups can communicate such global messages in such a way as to affect the whole group simultaneously.

Not surprisingly, similar processes occur in human society, but often in areas where we believe we have conscious control. Think about it for a moment. How many of your social values, morals, and opinions did you consciously sit down and decide upon? If you are honest with yourself, you will have to admit that very few were a result of your own deliberate decisions. Most of it arises from “social proofing”; the beliefs and values of our friends, relations and work colleagues. In other words, many of the beliefs and values you cherish and might even die for had nothing to do with your own deliberate rational thought! You simply picked them up from elsewhere, literally without thinking!

Yet, it is so vital to take conscious control of these processes. To fail to do so is to behave like a robot, to live life half-asleep, and to seriously under-achieve compared to all you might be capable of. Here are just a few common examples of social proofing that many of us buy into without much thought.

(1) Marriage. Roughly half of all marriages end in divorce, often bitter and acrimonious, with severe financial/emotional consequences for one of both parties and any children that may have resulted. Of those that last the course, a large percentage are drab affairs in which the partners hardly seem alive at all. Yet we see in excess of 70-80% of the population cheerfully tying the knot to people that half of them end up despising within a few short years! Why? First, because of the expectations of society and of parents. Despite many changes, single people are still regarded as rather abnormal and deficient; and nobody wants to be thought of like that.

Second, in order to bring up children. But is this really the only way? Are there really no alternatives? Ah, but then we would get into even more social proofing; the social/religious “immorality” of children born out of wedlock……

(2) Religion. Whether you believe that God is indivisibly ONE, or three personalities within the ONE, or a huge number of separate personalities, or even if you don’t believe in God at all – much of it is a result of social proofing. Your beliefs of the intrinsic nature of God and the universe can literally depend on the accident of which country you happened to be born in.

Can you imagine the social consequences of a Moslem in Yemen or Saudi Arabia converting to Hinduism?! When Christians glibly assert the Triune nature of God, they have no idea how much blood was shed in the early Church for decades on just this subject alone. Bishops and their entire congregations were literally murdered by rival “Christians” owing to differences in opinion so infinitesimal that it defies belief today that it could have caused so much death and misery. Yet today, Christians the world over buy into the Triune nature of God as part of the package without ever exercising the kind of independent thought that the early church has to at least be given some credit for. Social Proofing again. So even our philosophy of the metaphysical is often determined by others.

(3) Politics. Whilst it is easy to be socially or financially entrained into voting for the same political party again and again, how many of us fail to see the wood for the trees when we don’t even once ask ourselves whether Democracy itself is a valid political system to begin with? Why do we simply accept it as the best or only system possible? Because the politicians and the media tell us it is! And nobody around us ever questions it either. In the age of global telecommunication, international commerce, and the internet, why do we still buy into the concept of Nation States – an outdated concept that originated with primitive tribes and chieftains countless millennia ago?

(4) Education/Career. Do you think education is a good thing or a bad thing? Do you believe that the smartest and best educated always end up the wealthiest, the most successful, or the most happy? Did you decide to go (or to not go) to university because you sat and deliberated over the pros and cons, or because everyone around you were either planning to go (or not go) themselves? If your father is a multi-millionaire, do you feel comfortable starting your own shoe repair business?

The list is endless. We could go on and on. Social Proofing is so pervasive and subtle that we are close to having to admit that very few of our opinions are actually our own. Yet, we make major decisions in all aspects of our lives based upon ideas, attitudes, opinions and beliefs that we imbibed from society without a second thought! No wonder so many people’s lives are unhappy or confused.

So what should we do? Get conscious! We need to question our most comfortable beliefs and opinions in all areas. For the truth is that whatever we believe, for good or ill, becomes our reality. We must take control of our thoughts and opinions or we will be in danger of remaining a comfortable conformist cog in an ever dysfunctional society, always looking to others to know how we should think, behave and act.

So learn to live outside the known and the norm. Take chances. Embrace the unfamiliar and the unorthodox. Try to examine your own cherished views and see whether they arise from your own rational thought processes or were imbibed from the social culture around you. Examine the situations and relationships that you now find yourself in. One good exercise to break the chains of conventional thinking is to ask yourself, “Knowing what I now know, if I had to do it again, would I do it?” This can apply to a relationship, work situation, anything. Asking this one question can set you free from a lot of unconsciously accepted bondage.

Whilst social proofing will always be with us, because it is almost impossible to view ourselves totally objectively, we can certainly learn to take conscious control and minimize its damaging effects. So take control of your thought processes and literally question everything you have grown up so comfortable with. By doing so, you can begin the process of giving yourself more choices and unshackling yourself from chains of bondage and conformity that you didn’t even realize you were wearing.

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