In the world of goal setting, many individuals limit their beliefs about their own talent and abilities. They feel confined within boundaries, and beneath a low ceiling, that they built all by themselves. The myth they secretly tell themselves is that they are inferior; that they lack many things such as resources, education, and confidence.
In truth, the manner in which we label ourselves affects the meaning that we give to our lives. However, to fly over such mentally defined boundaries, it is vital to break out beyond our familiar constraints. If we are perpetually frightened of taking a chance and perhaps being lost in a new environment, then we will always be likely to stay only with what is familiar to us. Yes, it is basic human nature to search for a sense of security, but how can you ever move forward if you don’t try new things? Change is always a tricky matter, but it pays off in terms of growth and forward movement in your life.
Behavioral scientists claim that whatever we say, act, and wear reveals the kind of personality we have. In that case, our approach to life’s obstacles reveals something about ourselves as well. We have to dig deeper within us and change our old routine and attitudes which impede us from getting to success. We have to kill off negative attitudes such as giving up, self-justification, and playing the blame game.
Accusing others about something that you should be accountable for is wrong because it shows that you are failing to take responsibility for the situation. It just indicates that you don’t know how to handle your responsibilities and you are ultimately attempting to force other people to do it for you. Hence, if after goal setting, you fail to achieve your objective, don’t play the blame game or cop out in some other such way. Instead, stop and reconsider. Realize that you need to comprehend as much as possible with reference to your goal, and the potential difficulties that might crop up to stop you, in order for you to resolve the problems that come with it and reach the success you hunger for.
If you are making weak excuses that could cause you to give up on your goals, then it is vital that you stop doing it. In fact, set it as a goal in itself that you in no way permit outside events to stop you from performing the things that must be done in order for you to reach your goals.
Another bad attitude is denial. You need to stop denying your failings and simply commence working on them to make them right. There are individuals who deny the reality that they have quite simply failed to accomplish what they set out to do. You must know how to admit your weaknesses or errors, and grow from them. That is the only way that you can come back once more and ultimately win. Believe in yourself and also believe that you can undeniably do it better the next time around. Take risks, calculated well-thought out chances, in accordance with your overall goal plan and demonstrate to yourself (and everyone else too) that you really can do it.
Quitting on moving ahead is just like giving up on your goals. We frequently believe that we are stuck on things that inhibit us from achieving what we desire. We make excuses like we are too shy, too fat, too old, and too short. When things turn out to be very hard we forget to look inside to the spiritual source from which all of our strength ultimately comes from. Instead of being deterred when we come across apparently insurmountable obstacles, we should rather move forward in order to gain more knowledge and experience. Great achievements are always blocked by difficulties, so always recall this and have the guts and motivation to surge ahead.
Take a good look at your circumstances now and determine the things that you want to transform and leave behind. The gravity of challenges may occasionally pull you down, but constantly push on forward and never give up on your goal setting.
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