Archives for January 2010

Driving Like A Dark Bullet: Crash & Burn!

The other evening, I finished up my shopping at the supermarket and was heading home in my car. The main lighting in the car park was off, which must have distracted me somewhat as I had to fumble to get into the car, and then strain to see the keyhole to turn the ignition.

Anyway, I was on the main road just outside the supermarket, heading back, when suddenly a car pulled out from a sideroad and almost hit me side on. He braked and pulled back into the side street. He also had the damn nerve to honk me.

So I’m thinking things like, “Idiot! Why don’t you look where you’re going? And then YOU honk at ME?!”

But I’m also wondering, how it could happen? It’s like he didn’t even see me. Is he blind or am I that hard to see?

And then I noticed something interesting. As I looked down at my dashboard, I noticed that my headlights were completely off! Yes, I could see the road okay because there were streetlights. But I guess that nobody could see me coming so very well!

I was driving like a bullet in the dark, unseen.

Hmmm. So who’s the idiot now, I wonder?!…

I have to admit I felt more than a trifle guilty about it. There could have been a really bad accident if I had carried on much longer. Luckily, I had only just left the supermarket, and even more luckily, my attention had been immediately alerted to the problem by this incident.

However, as I was thinking about it, I realized that once again, it is a very good life lesson; not just for me but for us all…

How many of us are driving along at the steering wheel of our lives, absolutely certain that we are right in whatever we are doing… when in reality we are driving with our headlights off? Are there not areas of our lives where we are doing this, getting negative feedback from the outside world, i.e. like the guy who nearly hit me and had “the cheek” to honk at ME, and yet we carry on all the same, just swearing that we are RIGHT?! Then one day, we crash and burn and scratch our heads and wonder why?

I thought it was a great analogy because we can drive along in our lives, not examining what we are doing, not being as AWARE as we should be. Then one day, reality collides with our fantasy and we are left to pick up the pieces, and wonder what the heck happened. This could be relationships, career, personal growth, attitude to money, whatever.

Rather than think “Idiot” about the other guy, I was left asking, “SO who’s the idiot now?”

In fact, the guy who nearly hit me was symbolic of all those people who warn us we are in danger when we take a wrong path, but who we filter out and ignore because we don’t want to hear what they have to say. Luckily for me in this instance, he appeared on the scene and awakened me to something I would not have seen otherwise until perhaps it was too late.

Maybe the lesson is, switch on your headlights BEFORE you have the crash! In our lives it means, examine what you are doing in full awareness and make sure that it is what you really want to be doing. Realize that what you do has consequences, even if they are not the ones you knowingly intended! Every lapse, even momentary as mine was, can have enormous results. Your life interacts with others, so what you do matters, even if you think it is all your own business and nobody else’s. We are all connected in so many ways.

So, make sure that you too are not a dark bullet in the night, heading for certain crash and burn. Switch the lights on, get awareness, see what is coming, and let others see your light!

The Spiritual Lessons Of Falling Trees

Last Saturday, we were hit by a fierce cyclone.

It happened in the early morning at around 6:30AM. I heard rattling all around the house and the sound of the wind roaring, battering the roof. The electricity went down for about 40 minutes and so I had to do my morning Yoga by candlelight.

The whole thing was a short-lived affair of about half an hour at most. Yet, when I opened the blinds on one of my windows, the view looked strangely different.

I could see more of the landscape than I was used to.

“No, it can’t be,” I said to myself, and then rapidly slipped my shoes on and headed downstairs for a closer check.

It was.

Two adjacent trees at the border of my garden, fully 11 meters tall or more, had been knocked over and were lying in the roadway, completely blocking it. Moreover I later discovered that another tree of similar size, further up the line had started to move, and was now leaning perilously against the tree next to it.

The road is a private one connecting the five houses on this hillside. Still, it was not long before the first car came down from the house above to find out that this was the end of the journey.

So now, I had an unexpected major project on my hands. The morning was spent phoning around to see who could do the job of moving the trees and cutting down the leaning one before it collapsed of its own accord. I had no idea how much this would cost and had to therefore be careful who I chose.

It soon transpired that mine were not the only trees in the area to be affected. My neighbor lost three trees. In a nearby cemetery, only 20% of the trees in a row remained. Two fallen trees were blocking the road to the local town. And the local elementary school had lost 30 square meters of tiles from the roof.

Happily, I was able to find a company to clear the trees. They were dragged away by a large tractor with a heavy steel cord to the junction of the road at around 9:15AM. However, then came the bigger job and the tougher decisions…

Several other trees surrounding their fallen comrades showed signs that the earth around their roots had moved. This meant that they too, given their great height, were also at risk of gradually collapsing. If it snowed or rained, that would only accelerate the process.

Hence, two days later and at considerable cost, the same team arrived to cut all of my trees in the front half of the row, i.e. those most affected, to a mere half their former size.

It was a sad day for me because I liked the trees just as they were. I have more of a panoramic view now but it is not a great consolation for the fact that my trees look headless. Plus, there is a huge gap in their ranks where the pair fell. From the road, it looks like a terrorist explosion.

Ironically and very synchronistically, I had been outside the house mere minutes before the trees collapsed, and had suffered a very nasty fall myself. In fact, I slipped and fell sideways onto my right thigh and rib-cage without the support of my arm. In other words, I collapsed just like a tree. It really hurt and knocked the wind out of me. My arm still aches four days later.

I was later taken by this strange synchronicity; namely, that I would symbolically be toppled and fall in the exact same manner as would my two trees just minutes later. In reality, it is not coincidence at all.

Anyway, I think all this serves to teach a spiritual lesson, as indeed all events in our lives do if we would but look for the teaching…

Nothing lasts. Nothing is permanent. Everything is subject to the flux of change. That is what the Buddha taught us.

We cannot hold onto anything, or expect anything to endure. We must expect all things to eventually change, even if the probability of that seems extremely low.

The other thing that I liked was how my house was hidden from view from the road. Nobody could see it, so it was nice and private. Not any longer. Now you can see the house peeping out from over a kilometer away.

Again, we cannot hold onto our preferences. What happens happens and we must take it with calm acceptance. We must take the new circumstance just as they are.

We should also realize that crises are not an unusual visitation, but a normal part of life. Rather than ask, “Why did this happen to me?”, we do better to simply accept that it has happened, that crises happen to everyone and just get on with learning to deal with it and move on.

In any life, we can expect a smooth period where all goes well, followed by an unexpected crisis. You get over the crisis, and recover that smooth road… and then you get hit by another crisis. Sometimes, you get more than one at the same time.

This is NORMAL. It is nothing to write home about. It’s that thing we call “being alive”.

There is yet another lesson here, and it gives you a much broader perspective. While I’ve been fretting about my trees and whether or not I like the new view, as I write this it is believed that 50,000 may have perished in the earthquake in Haiti in the last 24 hours. So you see, if you think you have problems, you really don’t when you get things in perspective. Your worst nightmare would be someone else’s dream life. Think about that the next time you want to complain about something!

Having a spiritual perspective helps in life. And it also enables you to start seeing the connections, such as the strange “coincidence” of my falling down like a tree mere minutes before my trees collapsed.

I teach many spiritual secrets of life in my course, The 7 Golden Secrets To Knowing Your Higher Self. Most importantly in this instance, I discuss the symbolic aspect of everything that happens in life. For the truth is, if you have eyes to see it, all that happens to you happens for a reason. The question to ask is always, “What is the lesson here?”

Asoka Selvarajah

Happy 2010 From Asoka

I just wanted to pop in to wish you a very Happy New Year. May
every wonderful blessing happen for you in 2010. I really wish
this for you, no matter how well or badly it went last year.

You know, the start of the year is a great time to review the past
year, and to be honest with yourself as to how well it really
went. It is also the time to take the big-picture view of what’s

I would suggest that you take some time out, if you haven’t
already, and really plan out 2010 in detail. Review your
strategies. Find out what has worked for you and what hasn’t.

If nothing worked last year, then sit down and start afresh to
brainstorm what is going wrong. What do you need to do? What
resources do you have to access? (in ALL areas of your life –
business and personal).

The fact is that you are DEFINITELY capable of achieving your
goals and dreams. OK? The only question is, what is holding you
back? Is it your lack of self-belief? Is it lack of a winning
strategy and planning? Is it no clear goals in the first place?

This is a great time to really sit down and THINK. Take a blank
piece of paper and a pen… and just THINK. Plan. Strategize.

Also, I just wanted to say that I am “re-launching” myself in
2010. I know I’ve been rather quiet for a while, and there have
been reasons for that, which I’ll be quite candid with you about
later on.

For now, I just want to say that you can expect to hear a lot more
from me in the months to come. So, hold me to that promise, okay?

In the meantime, I wish you every success. Let’s make 2010 one of
the best ever for you.

Asoka Selvarajah