Archives for December 2005

The 2 Key Success Factors

Recently, Donald Trump was on TV and described his two major
keys to success. He said:

(1) You have to do something you really love.

(2) Be willing to overcome any obstacle – even go through a brick
wall, if necessary – in order to achieve your dream.

Now, while this may not sound like particularly new information
to anyone who has read a lot of motivational material, let us try
to look at it with new eyes. After all, it’s coming from one of
the most financially successful men in the world today.

First of all, you have to do what you love. There is even a book
with a title like this, “Do What You Love, And The Money Will

It might seem intuitively obvious that it would be nice to do
what you love. However, the point that most people miss here is
that almost NOBODY does what they really love. That is why so
very few people are outstandingly successful at anything.

Instead, for a whole variety of reasons, MOST people do what they
do NOT love. Many feel constrained to do so by the need to earn
money. This is the biggest single reason given.

Our life choices are motivated by desire for money to a far
greater extent than we imagine, or will ever accept. Many people
who claim to be uninterested in material things are nevertheless
working at jobs purely for the money, and not for the love of it.

The need for money is the substance in which we all move. Like
water to a fish, or air to a bird, we move through it,… but it
is totally invisible to us. Our motives for much of what we do
are concealed, even to ourselves

What is even more surprising is that many people, even when they
DO have the opportunity to exercise choice, will still not do
what they love.

For example, take someone who joins a Multi-Level Marketing
scheme to sell vitamin supplements. Did that person do it out of
genuine love for the products, and welfare for the people he/she
was going to introduce them to? Was it for love of the business?
Or was it just to make some extra cash?

You would hope so, and in some cases, it is true.

Actually, the most successful people in that sort of business ARE
the ones who love what they do, love the products, genuinely use
them, and want to benefit other through them. Those people make
the best salesmen. They really DO succeed because their sincere
enthusiasm is contagious to all whom they meet.

However, you can’t fake it. Insincerity, hunger, that dollar-sign
glint in your eye… it all communicates louder than mere words
ever can. And that’s the main reason why most people fail in MLM,
or in any other activity you might care to choose. They didn’t
love it for itself. They loved it for the result it would get

Most would-be writers don’t really want to write. They want to
“have written”. They want the results – the money, fame,
recognition – that comes from being a world famous writer. But
the long hard hours of sweating over a keyboard, fighting for
inspiration, throwing out half the stuff you write?…

Forget it!

Actually, success factor 1 that Donald Trump mentions is an
absolute necessity for success factor 2. You simply CANNOT muster
the will, energy and persistence for great success, if you don’t
love what you are doing.

It takes many many hours to become great at anything. Some people
estimate that it takes 10,000 hours to become world-class in the
field of your choice. However, most of those hours are going to
be spent in obscurity, pounding your head to a pulp against
seemingly unrelenting brick walls. Even to the most enthusiastic,
the goal is going to seem impossible at times.

How much worse then will it be for the person who does NOT love
what they’re doing?

The modern world seems to have turned this equation on its head,
and that is why there is a lot of confusion out there.

Previously, you actually had to be able to sing in order to
become a famous singer (sounds kind of obvious really, doesn’t
it?) However, nowadays the cynicism of the music industry has led
to a situation whereby they actively seek to recruit the right
FACE and BODY, to fit together with two or three others of like
mode. They then create a “pop group”, and TEACH these people how
to sing, dance, write songs, and perform on stage!

This is one example of how the values we have been discussing
have been turned on their head. It’s also why some of the old
names are still around forty years later (Dylan, Rolling Stones,
Clapton etc.) whilst you cannot even remember the faces from last
year. The former already knew how to sing and perform years
before they were ever famous. AND they loved it BEFORE they were
famous. They would have persisted even if they had never become

This specific example demonstrates why people DON’T do what they
love to do. They look at the end result – usually money – and
shoot for that instead. They think that once they have the money,
THEN they’ll be happy.


Certainly, you can achieve SOME degree of success at something
you are not that interested in (I achieved a Ph.D. in a subject
that I immediately gave up forever after the graduation
ceremony!) However, you are never going to achieve “greatness” at
it. Nor will you ever be truly deeply happy at it.

Incidentally, this is also why so many extremely wealthy people
continue to work long after they have enough money to last them
for a couple of centuries. It’s a point that most unmotivated
poor people, who hate their own jobs, totally miss…

Why does Gates, Trump, Forbes, or anyone else you care to mention
in their league, continue to work longer and harder than most of
their own employees (who actually NEED to work)? It’s because
they LOVE what they do, and that’s how they got to be where they
were in the first place!

The story is told of how a woman started work at Microsoft many
years ago, and was surprised to find a man lying fast asleep
under a desk. She was about to call Security, when she suddenly
recognized him. Bill Gates. He had been working there all night.

They say that when Michelangelo was working on a major
commission, he would neglect to change his clothes or take his
boots off (let alone take a bath) for weeks on end!

THIS is called loving what you do, and putting your entire heart
and soul into it. Spending every spare minute thinking about it,
and missing it every minute you are not doing it. It really is a
like a romance in many ways.

So, you need to ask yourself….

Do YOU love what you do? Do YOU have the energy that can move
mountains? If not, the best advice that anyone can give you is

Find out what it is you love, and start doing that. Maybe you
will begin in a small way at first, in your spare time. But water
the acorn. Over time, it will grow. Hopefully, you will find a
way to make money with it too (Hint: Combine what you love with a
good dose of marketing to create a commercially viable activity
that will support you). Then, you will find yourself in the place
you want to be.

Better to risk yourself a little, and take this approach than to
find yourself at the top of the ladder, only to discover it’s
leaning on the wrong wall. Or worse still, not even find yourself
halfway up that ladder, and spend the rest of your life wondering

That’s where most people are in our world. Don’t let it be you.

Copyright Asoka Selvarajah 2005. All Rights Reserved.

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    and the author of “The 7 Golden Secrets To Knowing Your Higher
    Self”. His work helps people achieve their full potential, deepen their
    understanding of mystical truth, and discover their soul’s purpose.
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  • This Unfair World

    “Why is everything unfair and unjust in this world?…”

    It’s a question a lot of people have on their minds. Frankly,
    it’s a very big question too. Philosophers and mystics have
    pondered this for as long as humans have been on this earth.
    Hence, it’s impossible to give a definitive answer. However, here
    are my personal thoughts on the matter.

    We have to see this from two points of view simultaneously; two
    viewpoints which are ultimately paradoxical to each other. The
    first is our standard personality consciousness. From this point
    of view, many things in life do seem unfair. Not only do they
    seem unfair, they actually ARE unfair.

    I don’t need to give examples. You know what we are talking

    However, that is just from the personality consciousness
    viewpoint. In order to believe that life is unfair, you have to
    completely believe in the “reality” of the personality
    consciousness experiencing that life, and its interpretation of
    what is being presented to it by the senses.

    Now, the other viewpoint is what we might all the “enlightenment
    perspective”. This is essentially the dispassionate, detached
    observer – pure consciousness – that can watch the unfolding of
    events without judgment or blame. It does not have mental
    investment in world events. It just sees them come and go, like
    the water flowing by in a river.

    To it, the meanings and motives we attribute to events are
    essentially illusory. Not only that, it perceives the human body
    and the human consciousness to be equally illusory. from that
    higher consciousness perspective, there is no “unfairness” and
    “injustice”. Things just are. That’s all.

    Even if you suffer physically or mentally, this higher
    consciousness perspective is untroubled because it realizes that
    the suffering and death of the physical body is not ultimate in
    any sense, but just a passing phase in existence.

    Now, all of this is admittedly a pretty tough perspective for
    most of us to achieve on an ongoing basis We may be momentarily
    capable of this, but in the unenlightened state, it is impossible
    to sustain for any appreciable length of time. And the vast
    majority of us ARE unenlightened, no matter how much modern
    Western spiritual books and courses might like to tell you

    Now, this higher consciousness we are talking about is largely an
    Eastern mystical perspective. It cannot generally be found in the
    Western tradition, as represented by religions such as
    Christianity, Judaism and Islam.

    All of these DO assume the reality of the individual person as a
    given. There is no illusion here. A person is real, and that
    person’s consciousness is real. Likewise, if there is a higher
    perspective that makes all things right, it is the personal God’s
    perspective alone. Moreover, this perspective is “right” because
    God knows his own private purposes and plans that are working
    themselves out in his creation. Hence, from the human point of
    view, according to this system, things ARE unfair. BUT… all
    will be made right WHEN God’s purposes are finally revealed.
    Until then, we must have faith and trust that all will eventually
    work together for good for those that trust in God.

    There are many problems with this approach, not least of which
    is the perfectly valid question as to why God created such a
    perverse situation in the first place. Christianity, at least,
    has to give a strange and convoluted answer in order to devolve
    direct responsibility for the situation from God himself. This,
    however, is never really done with any great degree of
    satisfaction, and still leaves many questions unanswered.

    The Eastern perspective on higher consciousness poses fewer
    problems, and is ultimately more satisfactory. It does not need
    to resort to notions of Sin, Judgment, Devil or anything else
    like this in order to give a satisfactory explanation of what we
    perceive. Instead, the cosmic Law of Cause & Effect – called
    Karma – ultimately dictates, in a totally dispassionate, unbiased
    and irrefutable manner, why beings experience what they do,
    either for good or ill.

    However, we have to be careful not to “talk theory” all the time
    about this higher perspective, whilst still remaining firmly
    rooted in our own normal consciousness. You see this a lot in New
    Age online forums. It’s easy to talk enlightenment, i.e. talk of
    things you have never personally experienced, but it’s quite
    something else to live it.

    Be gentle with yourself, and gradually work towards the higher
    consciousness perspective. It may not be something that you even
    achieve in this lifetime. However, you can still remind yourself
    of it constantly whenever you look at the world and all of its
    sufferings, and despair of it all.

    The world may seem and unfair, and actually BE unfair to the
    personality consciousness. However, every time it seems so,
    remember that you are associating with a view of reality that is
    ultimately confined by your own senses and your own necessarily
    limited understanding.

    There is a higher perspective possible. So, as much as possible,
    mentally associate with it. One day, it will become your reality.

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    Some Thoughts On Life…

    Two weeks ago, my father was on a holiday cruise in the
    Mediterranean when he suffered a coronary, i.e. a heart attack.
    The ship happened to be docked at Tripoli, Libya, and he was
    rushed to the main hospital there.

    The doctors there declared that he would have to remain there for
    several days, and so the ship set sail without him. And there he
    was – a 73 year old man, stranded in Libya with a serious heart

    Now, having a heart attack anywhere is not a pleasant thing. But
    being stranded in a country like Libya only compounded the
    problems many times over.

    The story has a fairly happy ending though. Thanks to the
    extremely high quality of medical attention he received at the
    hospital, and through the the tireless efforts of the tour
    company representatives, he was flown back to the UK a week and a
    half after the incident under the medical escort of a UK doctor
    who had flown out to get him. Now he is recuperating in his
    brother’s house and is apparently doing very well.

    Anyway, the reason I mention this story is just to point out a
    couple of matters to ponder…

    The first is that, in life, things happen. And they may not
    always be things that we like or want. It doesn’t matter who you
    are, you will face challenges. There is no escaping it. The more
    I view life, the more I tend to side with the Buddhist view;
    namely, that the unenlightened life IS suffering. All is in a
    change and a flux, and though we might like to keep some things
    just the way they are – our health, for example – we cannot.

    Sad things are going to happen to us, and sad things are going to
    happen to our relatives and friends. Don’t let this catch you by
    surprise, or wonder “Why me?”. It happens to us all. If you have
    no problems or challenges in your life, then chances are that
    you’re already dead. If you REALLY have no problems in your life
    right now… then just wait awhile. They’ll show up soon enough.
    That’s for sure.

    A philosophical approach to this stark reality really helps.
    Maintaining the truth in your mind that the essence of life IS
    Change, and that Suffering IS a constant (and not merely an
    unwanted intrusion from the outside) may make such experiences
    easier to deal with when they do take place.

    Another aspect of this story is its unlikely nature. Low
    probability events DO occur, occur quite frequently, and have
    changed lives and even history itself on many occasions.

    My father’s first attack took place by the Pyramids in Egypt. Not
    realizing that it was a heart attack, he did nothing about it
    that day. The ship set sail and arrived in Libya. Next morning,
    he was taken ashore when the second incident occurred. The ship
    then sailed on.

    Now, if the matter had been attended to in Egypt, or else the
    second incident had occurred after the ship had left Tripoli, he
    would not have been left stranded in such an unlikely and
    difficult place.

    However, circumstances conspired to create this extremely
    unlikely and difficult turn of events. I am reminded of how the
    entire Aztec empire collapsed because they were expecting the
    return of their departed blue-eyed fair-skinned God,
    Quetzalcoatl, in the year 1519. That same year, a comet appeared
    in the sky.

    And in that same year, the Spanish Conquistadors arrived.

    Extremely unlikely things DO happen, and happen often. So, you
    would do well to factor this into your thinking, at least to some
    extent. When traveling abroad, it ALWAYS makes sense to take
    travel insurance. My father did, and it made all the difference
    in what might otherwise have been a total nightmare for us, i.e.
    ten times worse than the one that actually occurred. In our own
    lives, we should plan for the unlikely but possible.

    This is not a mandate for jumping at the rustling of leaves in
    the wind. All I am saying is that it does make sense to be aware
    of what is within the realms of possibility in your life.
    Wherever possible, you should prepare for it.